Relationship Stages Suck!

There was a point in time where I totally believed in the stages of a relationship or “love.” I looked at my own and said, “YES!! THAT’S TOTALLY TRUE! This is the trufff!” However, now, I wish there weren’t stages to relationships or “love.” I mean, there shouldn’t be.

I understand they’re fun to talk about, identify with, and make jokes about it. However, the stages are merely seen as boundaries within a relationship that hinders further explorations or discoveries! They do nothing but say, “HEY. Stop showing so much love and affection towards that person GOSH DANG IT, MARTHA. You shouldn’t do that anymore. Those things belong in the past stage, so stop it! You look ridiculous! You are overdoing it and he is going to get sick of you! Just stop it!”

There shouldn’t be stages in a relationship! It causes boredom, heartaches, and endless anticipation. Love them like you should and how you want.

No matter how comfortable it gets, continue to shower them with love and affection. Yes, they probably know you love and care about them deeply but always remember to remind them from time to time. Don’t let your love get old. Don’t let it get boring. Let it be spontaneous, alluring, and cheesy! SO CHEESY THAT IT MAKES YOU DISGUSTED!

Don’t be afraid. Let it be anything but boring. If you’re too scared or because you’re both “comfortable” now, you both will never get to discover and explore all the ways that make you swoon and melt - and how beyond adorable that person really is than he/she is now.

There are no stages but only years and years of being together. Don’t let your heart be stubborn and restricted, Martha!